How true! I heard the quote on my favorite Show, CBS Sunday Morning. They were doing a segment on the Crystal Cathedral, falling out of ownership by the Robert Schuller family. His daughter remembered her father saying, “Every setback is a setup for a comeback.”

How often I tell my clients when reeling from a setback, “find the lesson find the lesson – then put it into action as fast as you can.” When my mother passed away, I was devastated. But we spent the last 6 months of her life in the most honest relationship we every enjoyed. I knew her, I spent quality time with her. She passed and went straight into my heart. She advises me every day in ways she was incapable of when she was on this plane.

When I was diagnosed with MS and my fiancé left me without even a good-bye, I was devastated. But, the pain of rejection gave me the momentum to heal myself and my life. He was a distraction and the wrong man. While I couldn’t see it at that time, however, he was the right man to move me into action that would save my life. And, about 3 years later, when I has grown into being ready to love, the right man appeared, my soul mate of 25 years and counting.

Try this little exercise. Make a list of the “bad” things that have happened to you over the last 5 years, the setbacks. After each one put, “Well, you never know.” Then chart them to the present. How many of those lemons turned into lemonade? And, if some of them haven’t, how can you turn them into lemonade now?

Raise your lemonade glass in a toast to turning setbacks into setups for comebacks and feel free to share one here.

Categories : Wisdom and Advise


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    I would like to break the habit of calling my ex boyfriend…i still look out for him even if it’s been a year and months since he left me for another woman, by the way i’m 22…well he just left me without a concrete reason or a “goodbye” too…we never really really broke up, he just said he was in love with her and that was it, i had to deal with it. And well it’s been very difficult because i really loved him and i still don’t know why i can’t let go of him…i passed through hard moments while this codependency while he couldn’t care less. I’m sure he’s an asshole, but i still can’t let go of it.

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