http://blockedtoblockbuster.com/blog/stop-trying-to-fix-what-isn%e2%80%99t-broken/ Judith Parker Harris Tue, 10 Aug 2010 03:16:14 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://blockedtoblockbuster.com/blog/stop-trying-to-fix-what-isn%e2%80%99t-broken/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Julia Marrocco Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:57:27 +0000 http://blockedtoblockbuster.com/blog/?p=98#comment-68 Judith, Amazing topic. Only yesterday in a coaching class we were talking about the power of acknowledgement and the ability to be comfortable in the silent space with others (rather than filling the space with words). We as humans do way too much "fixing" and not enough listening. We have started wars because we went to "fix" another country. Fising others can become an addiction, as well. I work with Co-Dependency in the workplace. A working definition of Co-Dependency by Sarah Wheeler, CADC II, is "Caretaking others as a way to make myself fell better and being committed to that self-abandoning care taking rather than working to meet my needs". People need to be inter-dependent, and as a culture we have become dysfunctionally Co-Dependent, and I see the symptoms every day in government, the media, and in every industry. Thanks for this great post! Judith,
Amazing topic. Only yesterday in a coaching class we were talking about the power of acknowledgement and the ability to be comfortable in the silent space with others (rather than filling the space with words). We as humans do way too much “fixing” and not enough listening. We have started wars because we went to “fix” another country. Fising others can become an addiction, as well. I work with Co-Dependency in the workplace. A working definition of Co-Dependency by Sarah Wheeler, CADC II, is “Caretaking others as a way to make myself fell better and being committed to that self-abandoning care taking rather than working to meet my needs”. People need to be inter-dependent, and as a culture we have become dysfunctionally Co-Dependent, and I see the symptoms every day in government, the media, and in every industry. Thanks for this great post!

]]> http://blockedtoblockbuster.com/blog/stop-trying-to-fix-what-isn%e2%80%99t-broken/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Donna L. Harris Mon, 22 Feb 2010 18:30:08 +0000 http://blockedtoblockbuster.com/blog/?p=98#comment-67 Thank you for two wonderful insights: In our desire to help someone, it is difficult to remember that the other person is the rightful master of his/her own life. By recognizing that, sometimes we can be of the greatest assistance by just being empathically present and lending support as they figure out their own best course of action. Also, thank you for the anxiety-reducing reminder to pick and choose priorities, rather than trying to take on everything at once! Thank you for two wonderful insights: In our desire to help someone, it is difficult to remember that the other person is the rightful master of his/her own life. By recognizing that, sometimes we can be of the greatest assistance by just being empathically present and lending support as they figure out their own best course of action. Also, thank you for the anxiety-reducing reminder to pick and choose priorities, rather than trying to take on everything at once!

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