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JUDITH’S BUST A BLOCK A DAY CHALLENGE

By Judith Parker Harris

What better way to spend a few moments every day than by busting a few blocks? I challenge you to Bust A Block A Day. Read the rest of this entry »

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How To Start Receiving Your Body’s Signals

By Judith Parker Harris

What’s your body telling you when it gets sick? As the BlockBuster Coach, one of the most common blocks I hear is the lament, “I need a sign.” My answer is, “You need another sign? Pay attention to the signs your body had been sending you for so long.”

Don’t you just hate it when you are told, “The answers you seek are already deep inside of you. All you have to do is access your own wisdom.” Well, I’m an expert on that one, in fact I’m quoting myself. My body had to go numb, become partially blind and lose its balance before I stopped in my tracks and said, “Hey, what are you trying to tell me?” I am certain that my body manifested Multiple Sclerosis to keep workaholism from killing me.

I didn’t see doors of opportunity, I saw dead ends. When I read this quote from Helen Keller, however, a little light went on. She said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; But often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”

Was that true? Was I focusing on closed doors? I sure was. I held on to relationships that needed to end. I failed to replace employees who were not doing the job because I thought I could change them. My carefully designed “look” (hair, clothing style and make-up) hadn’t changed in 20 years. I had chronic bronchitis, constant exhaustion, two automobile accidents, but still I wasn’t listening — I was STUCK, and soon, my out-of-balance life caused me to go numb.

Listen for what, you may ask? Listen for the open doors. Here’s a little experiment you’ll find enlightening. Using the list of prompters below, list five signals your body (or life) sent you over the last month indicating that you needed to stop staring at a closed door and open a new one: Accident, Traffic Ticket, Anger, Depression, Lethargy, Fights, Drowsiness, Mistakes, Cravings, Urges, Longings, Memories, Family Trouble, Social ups & downs, Community, Stress, Discomfort, Illness, Sloppiness, Disrespect, No control.

Now that you have the five signals or messengers it’s time to connect the dots. Let’s say your signals are anger, a fender bender, mistakes at work, lack of control and fights. List them all on a piece of paper then play the detective game. What are the who, what, where, when and why of your signals.
Why are you angry? With whom are you really angry? Why were you not paying attention when driving? Why so many careless mistakes? What makes you feel out of control? Why the fights? What’s the point of them?

As you answer the questions, take a highlighter and underline what your answers have in common. See if the answers will lead you to a new intention – something you want to accomplish right now in your life, such as confront a friend, change your career, eat better, lose weight, face an unpleasant truth. When you define your intention, write down what you think is blocking you, such as fear of being alone, feeling unprepared, not “enough” of something, waiting for the right moment, being change-phobic… That will be your closed door! Once you’ve found the closed door, you can say good-bye forever, and walk through your open door – your intention.

Feel better? It’s called being conscious of why you do what you do when you do it. Look at your decisions, realize you have a choice, then make it. Conscious decisions will lead you through a lot of wonderful open doors. They lead me through the open door of daily multiple sclerosis wellness.

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Make Your Life Work Today

By Judith Parker Harris

My goal in writing my column this month is to give everyone a hand up, a light at the end of the tunnel, an inspirational jolt and a battery recharge.

How? By inspiring you to change what’s not working in your life, because that just might get your life back to working!

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend say, ” We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.”

Does it hurt enough yet? Does it hurt enough to wake up every morning and focus on your intention for that day, and then to take action to make it happen? Because, that’s what you have to do. I sit with client after client who complain about the work it takes to change. They come back, week after week without doing the homework I give them. Then, one day, they get it. They get that when you do the work, things change. And, the more they change, the more enjoyable the work they must do becomes.

The bottom line is that you must have a goal or intention and you must be ruthlessly committed to making it happen. The commitment to your goal is fundamental. When you truly commit to a goal, you open up your mind to finding the means to achieve that end. The key words here are OPEN UP, because closed minds leave no room for good news or change. The closed mind is filled with a negative chorus of reasons why you can’t. Fire the chorus – it’s time for your solo.

OPEN UP to the reasons why you can.

Here’s the truth that makes my clients groan; the answer you seek regarding the means to achieve your goal is already inside of you, It’s just buried underneath all of the baggage you bring to this day from however many years old you are. Lose your baggage, and you will find your answer.

This may take a major attitude adjustment, because you have to reconnect with what makes you unique, and we are all unique. As one of the top motivational speakers in the industry, Zig Zigler says, “You cannot consistently perform in a manner that is inconsistent with the way you see yourself”

So, how do you see yourself? Let’s go on a little exploration of that. This is your homework, if you will. Answer all the questions below:

  1. What is the most important thing for me to accomplish today?
  2. What actions will I take to achieve that intention?
  3. How will this help my overall goal in life at this time?
  4. How do I perceive myself as the person who will achieve that goal?
  5. How do other’s perceive me?
  6. Do I need to change any of my own perceptions?

Finally, I’d like you to write a paragraph that includes your thoughts and feelings about already having achieved your goal.

How does it feel?

How do you feel about yourself now?

Let me give you one more clue that will help you achieve your intention everyday. It will also help you connect with your unique self. This clue comes from Walt Disney, who said, “Observe the masses and do the opposite.”

Stop watching the news with its daily dose of fear mongering. Stop engaging with the angry masses and their fear prognostications. Don’t let anyone cast a negative shadow over you based upon how they see you. Bad news is for other people. You are going to grab on to your unique self and show the world what you have to offer. You are an answer to someone else’s problem and that knowledge will help you achieve your intention while enjoying the process.

Now, do your homework!

(And, I’d love you to share your comments with me.)

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Earthquakes Leave Us Shaken To The Core

By Judith Parker Harris

On Tuesday, August 23rd a 5.8 earthquake hit Washington DC, also shaking up New York and several Eastern states. In truth, it shook the nation, because it’s not supposed to happen there – only once every 100 years or so, say the experts. But, why now?

“Whether you realize it or not,” says psychology expert, Art Markman Ph.D., “when the rocks beneath our feet become unstable, then it shakes us both mentally and physically.”

Why? I ask. Because the earth is our foundation.

We depend on gravity. The earth is not supposed to shake it’s supposed to hold us, keep us from falling, provide stability. What else is supposed to do that?

Perhaps our government, which is now torn down the middle in hopeless bipartisan bickering which keeps us from making life & country saving actions? Could it be our relationships that seem to grow more wobbly by the day? Or perhaps common sense that no one seems to obey thus shaking our trust levels? Maybe all of those experts on everything we need to know, but who now are so ubiquitous and numerous, they have all but lost their value. Perhaps peace could offer us stability? But where do we find it with wars, arguments, yelling and anger meeting us at every turn? Surely leaders will break our fall, but where are they? Every one and thing seems to be in a free fall including our teachers, preachers, pundits and peers.

So, when we’re feeling all shook up, what are we to do in order to find our foundation? We must each anchor to our truth. For a moment, think of your life as a house. What is your house made up of? Conversations. There are basically three types of conversations: those you have with yourself, those you have with other people and those they have about you when you leave the room.

In order for our lives to grow in stability, we must expand our conversations and open our hearts to new ways of thinking. Sometimes our very foundation keeps us from building a bigger house because it is built on a story full of somebody else’s truths – perceptions, disappointments, false prejudices, negative lessons that we absorbed as children as part of our story. The proverbial question is “How’s that been working for you?” For many, “Not so good.”

I urge you to do a little fact check, find your truth and return to your core, where you will once again find stability.

Connect to your core and you may find yourself standing tall the next time your world shakes.

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Attitude Determines Altitude

By Judith Parker Harris

What are you struggling with that you just can’t get off the ground? Is it your health, your finances, a relationship, your purpose in life? Three little words will lift you out of the struggle and deposit answers in your lap – ATTITUDE DETERMINES ALTITUDE.

In short, you can’t fly until your attitude reflects where you are going or who or what you want to attract in your life. Recently, I was running out of patience with my husband’s lack of hearing. With each repetition of the same sentence, my voice would grow in volume and anger. Our communication was grounded.

What did I do? I changed my attitude. I swallowed my lack of patience and responded with kindness and love every single time. I leaned in closer to him, I made eye contact, I changed my wording, I caressed him rather than glaring at him. Surprise, he started to hear me with fewer repetitions and rewarded me with his own change of attitude.

In the beauty salon this morning, my hairdresser (also the salon owner) was complaining about the immaturity and outright rudeness of his co-workers. I shared my 3 little words, and I could see him start to soar. He decided to raise the attitude bar by setting the example he wanted others to mirror. Immediately, the atmosphere in the shop changed. He had been sinking to their level rather than giving them the opportunity to rise to the desired level of their shared business attitude and atmosphere.

My bookkeeper is going on a 5-day silence retreat in a Monastery. She’s worried because her friends and family think she’s crazy and destined to fail. I shared ATTITUDE DETERMINES ALTITUDE with her along with a reminder that their perceptions are not her truth. I also asked her to predetermine her success by focusing on the outcome she wants and opening her heart to wonderful outcomes she may never have imagined.

Here it is, 3 BLOCKBUSTER steps to achieve 3 little words, ATTITUDE DETERMINES ALTITUDE:

  1. LISTEN inward for an old attitude that is keeping you grounded from accomplishing an important current goal.
  2. OPEN YOUR HEART to a new behavior and attitude that will help you lift off to success. (This is often the opposite of what is keeping you blocked)
  3. FOCUS on the outcome you want from your attitude makeover and say good-bye to old behavior, habits and routines that keep you stuck in the old attitude. 

By the way, these 3 little words came to me “uncredited” from a motivational speaker group I belong to on Linked In. We were all asked to share our favorite motivational quotes. Mine was, “Wake up with joy in your heart for what the day may bring,” a quote from my ever-optimistic husband. He and his quote are definitely part of the reason my altitude stays high when I’m conscious of fueling it with my desired attitudes.

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