What have you been saying for the longest time that you are “going to?”

Going to:

Call someone
Do something
Start a project
Lose weight
Change your hair
Get some new friends
Be a better ___________________
Save your money, make more money, invest your money…
Volunteer
De-clutter your life
Take an inventory

January is my favorite month of the year, because as it begins, I have renewed energy for my “going to” list. This year, however, I’m not “GOING TO” call it that. I’m simply calling it my DO LIST.

So often “Going to” is associated with the Sorceress Villain which means you are Going to when something else happens. When ____________, I’m GOING TO __________. The awful part is “When __________” never seems to happen and even if it does, there is another “When ____________” right after it.

We can solve that problem with a DO list which calls for immediate ACTION. When you catch yourself saying, “I’M GOING TO DO,” stop and reframe or rephrase. Verbalize your intention as an action statement in the here and now. You are not going to wait for anything. You are just DOING IT.

Another suggestion is to have a TO DO buddy. Choose someone you can promise and report to.

Just so there’s no confusion here are a few rewrites of weak “Going to” thoughts into strong action statements.

I am going to lose weight becomes I am losing weight this year.

I am going to get a job becomes I am getting a job and loving it.

I am going to improve my financial status becomes I am increasing my wealth by budgeting and investing.

I am going to improve my health becomes I am improving my health by adding exercise daily.

OK, now it’s your turn.

You will notice that in most of the above examples, I not only stated the intention in the present tense, but I also paired it with immediate action to take.

Do you see the weakness in the phrase “I’m going to do that”? It doesn’t say when, therefore, it can just be added to a never-ending list of guilt making GOING TO DO’S that never get done. 

I ask you, “When are you going to do it?” And, I hope I’m hearing a chorus of answers that sound like this – I’m doing it NOW!!!

I leave you with this thought wrapped in a book recommendation. In the book HOW by Dov Seidman, President Bill Clinton’s Foreword included this thought about our mission as part of a global economy, “This new focus requires all of us to think about the how, and to find new ways to take action to solve the global issues that none of us can tackle alone.” So, whether as an individual or as part of the world community, I say, “Out with the “going to” It’s not about when it’s about HOW, and the time to do it is NOW.”

I am thrilled to be offering you a free webinar that I’ve been planning for years. The purpose of this webinar is to re-introduce people living with chronic illness to their power to heal. I use my experience of recovering from Multiple Sclerosis and remaining symptom free for over 20 years to show you how to deal with almost any illness. The only complaint I’ve heard so far is that there’s too much information. Well, I want you to have as much information as possible, and I’m happy to answer questions if you feel overwhelmed. I’m AVAILABLE. Call it my plan to make healthcare affordable – take charge of what you can – your thoughts and your emotions. That can have a powerful effect on your prognosis. To start, you’ll learn how to defuse the debilitating effects of anger, how to take advantage of Connection, how to learn from your emotional family tree and how to strengthen 12 life areas that can make you feel like a new person.
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Dear BlockBusters,

In the month of Thanksgiving, I’m dedicating this issue to the gratitude I feel for being symptom free of Multiple Sclerosis for 21 years. As many of you know, I’ve done this through employing many holistic techniques, and primarily through busting through the emotional and thought blocks that can add fuel to physical symptoms that are lurking in our systems waiting to be activated.

I have recorded a webinar that I’m offering "for free" so that cost cannot be a block to accessing the information. The webinar shares details on 8 of the methods I used to reclaim my health when MS struck. I still use these methods constantly to stay healthy. It’s called, 8 BLOCK BUSTERS FOR MASTERING MS.

This webinar is designed for anyone facing a major health issue as well as other types of challenges in your life. If the topic does not apply to you, please pass it on to a friend or family member who may be in the midst of a health, relationship or life crisis/transition of some kind. Every time I speak, I’d say one-third to one-quarter of my audience members come up to me afterwards and say “I know someone with MS – my sister, my uncle, my best friend has MS. How can I help them? My answer is, help me spread the word by passing the link to this webinar on to your circle of friends. There are things we can do to heal and to help our doctors help us, while science struggles to find a cure. Here is the registration link:

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The first article in this issue gives you an abridged version of the 8 BlockBusters included in the hour-long webinar. The second article teaches you how to pay attention to and decipher messages your own body may be trying to send you regarding potential illness or crisis. Blocks in the News, uses Michael Jackson as a tragic example of how EVERYONE ignored the signals Michael was sending.

Happy Thanksgiving to all. Please enjoy my gift of the webinar and also let me know what you learned and how you will utilize the information. I treasure your feedback.

Here Are 8 Block Busters To Help You Heal

In 1985 I was running a multi-million dollar advertising agency with healthcare clients throughout the United States. Suddenly I found myself numb from the waist down, partially blind and diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I was told I might spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair.

There were no medications to prescribe at the time, so I went in search of answers after I dealt with my panic and denial. I’ve been symptom-free since 1990. Here are 8 BlockBusters I know will aid your medical doctors in helping you live healthy with MS or other illness challenges. 

Block Buster Number One: Learn from your Emotional Family Tree.

We’re all used to looking at our medical histories when we get sick. How about our emotional histories? What negative thoughts and emotions have you absorbed from others that might be negatively impacting your MS symptoms today?

Block Buster Number Two: Check in with your Inner wisdom/ Inner Child.

Your inner child is your creativity, your muse. Write your inner child and ask him or her – When did she first feel like you feel now as you face your MS diagnosis – scared, fearful, overwhelmed, out of balance, less then… Write a new script, let go of childhood lessons that may be holding you back, embrace what you need to learn.

Block Buster Number Three: Turn anger into action.

I was angry for a year after my diagnosis, until I realized that if I didn’t start dealing with my anger, the anger would increase my stress which would impact my symptoms. So, here’s the plan. You’ve got to FEEL IT , WRITE ABOUT IT, SHOUT IT OUT AND LET IT GO – then take a step forward in your life.

Block Buster Number Four: Find which one of 12 life areas holds your answer:

Work, Money, Love/Spousal Relationships, Friendships, Community, Environment, Family of Origin, Current Family, Parenthood, Play, Health and Spirituality/religion. Now rate these 12-life areas from 1 to 12 – 1 being the most time you spend on an area and 12 being the least. Then take the bottom 3 areas – 10, 11 and 12 and invest “a little” energy into each to bring them to life. You’ll be surprised what answers you find to your diagnosis

Block Buster Number Five: Make Conscious Choices to discover your power in life.

Do you have any idea how many choices you make every day –unconsciously? Whether to snack on celery sticks or ice cream, whether to take action on your diagnosis or numb out in front of the TV and stay in your uncomfortable comfort zone.

Slow down for a moment before each decision and realize you have the power to change. Of course you didn’t choose the MS diagnosis, but every choice you make from here on out can help your prognosis.

Block Buster Number Six: Here’s the 4-step Problem Solver Communication Strategy that will change your life whenever you face a conflict, argument or unsettling information.

1. Open up – Open your heart to new information and ways of doing things.
2. Keep your defenses down – Be aware of negative internal voices that keep you stuck in the past. 
3. Listen carefully to what your opponent is saying and make room for new understanding.
4. Think about your strategy. ALL BEFORE TALKING.

Block Buster Number Seven – Choose Love Over Fear.

Love will be in the answer to the problem you are working on.

With love you create abundance, trust, joy. You have faith in your higher power, you perceive yourself as whole, forgiving, generous, creative. You are safe and there is enough.

With scarcity/FEAR, You feel deprived. You are always competing and losing, you feel attacked, There is not enough of anything in your life. Your behavior is self-defeating.

To release myself from the fear of MS, I had to rediscover passion, play, Persistence and my positive personality – all part of loving myself.

Block Buster number Eight: CONNECTION.

A disease diagnosis certainly disconnects us. It knocks us for a loop and threatens life as we knew it. The sooner we start re-Connecting, however, the sooner we will find answers unique to who we are. CONNECT WITH YOUR BODY Meditate, then ask your body, What do you want me to know? CONNECT WITH PEOPLE. Who do you admire? What helpful qualities do they have that you can emulate? CONNECT TO THE PROMISE OF YOUR SOLVED PROBLEM – THE SOLUTION – living healthy with MS.

There is nothing about my life today that is the same as in the year of my diagnosis thanks to the 6-letter word, CHANGE.

I go into depth on these Block Busters in a new, free webinar for people diagnosed with MS and other dis-eases. Find out more www.BlockedtoBlockbuster.com/mswebinar. Remember, take one little action every single day to improve the balance of your 12 life areas and feeling better will be your reward.

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What better way to spend a few moments every day than by busting a few blocks? I challenge you to Bust A Block A Day. That means when you’re in a conversation or situation that suddenly makes you feel uncomfortable, as anger or fear or any one of 400 other often repressed emotions starts trying to get out of your system – STOP.
1) Pause and don’t say anything. Check out what you are feeling and what you are about to say and ask, “Is this how I really feel and what I really think or is this a block. Blocks are thoughts and emotions that you can’t control, most likely because you absorbed them from someone else.
2) Throw out the first reactive comments or feelings that come to mind – that would be the block.
3) Make a conscious choice about how you think and feel today and let that be your response.

You’ve done it! You’ve said good-bye to a block you have successfully busted.

Many times when we run into a block we go into auto-anger-pilot. We see auto-anger-pilot at work all around us every single day, which is why I call our wonderful, but stressed-out nation, THE UNITED STATES OF ANGER.

BLOCKBUSTER ANGER VILLAINS QUIZ

Please take a moment to answer the 7 questions below to learn which villain may be causing anger to complicate your life.

The seven questions correspond numerically to the Villains numbered and listed right below the questions. After each question please circle on a scale of 1 to 5 how much you experience the feelings described. (1 denotes seldom feeling that way, all the way to 5 representing feeling that way a lot.) When finished add up your score and see where you fall on the Anger Villain Scale.

1) Do you find yourself stuck in a chain of complaints – never totally happy with anything at work or in life, as if you’ve been tricked or misled?
0 1 2 3 4 5 ____________
Your Rating

2) Do you feel like you’re never quite enough – pretty enough, rich enough, talented enough, smart enough, lucky enough…to get the job done?
0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating

3) Has some event or person killed your self-confidence or joy at work?
0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating
4) Do you find it necessary to hide behind excuses or role-playing instead of just being yourself?
0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating

5) Do you feel like something or someone is always more powerful than you, leaving you helpless, hopeless – even victimized?
0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating
6) Has the ability to love what you do been largely replaced by fear or anxiety in your life?
0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating
7) Do you find yourself waiting for the right circumstances to move forward, yet the circumstances are never quite right enough?

0 1 2 3 4 5 _____________
Your Rating

Total Points_____________

SCORE RESULTS:
1-3: Congratulations! You are a hero and a master of your emotions.

4 –10: You are conquering the anger villains, but you are still vulnerable.
11-15: Unfortunately, you are a “victim” of anger But, there is hope.
16 and above: One or more anger villains are running your life. Moving forward demands disarming them.

Villains: 1) Saboteur, 2) Pirate, 3) Killer, 4) Mugger, 5) Monster, 6) Lost Love, 7) Sorceress.

Thank you for taking time to answer all of these questions. If you’d like to know more about these villains, please go to the Villains page on my website, blockedtoblockbuster.com/villains.html
Also, try busting a block. When you do, there’s a place on my Blog to share your block, how you busted it, and to get a response from me.

Happy Block Busting!

CUT TO:

Present reincarnation of show. With Charlie’s character dead and gone, brother John has lucked into a similar living situation with the rich guy who bought Charlie’s beach house in which the brothers lived. Hello Sorceress. We see you are still alive and well. While new guy Walden, played by Ashton Kutcher, has the looks, money and girls, he is not the street-wise playboy of Charlie’s character, but rather an innocent who never grew up. This crack in Ashton’s character provides the entry John Cryer needs to realize he has more intelligence and life smarts than he ever suspected when called upon to get Ashton’s character out of scrapes and help him handle romantic situations. Who knew he knew? Certainly not John. If it hasn’t dawned on John’s character yet, he will soon realize his growing confidence and see the importance of the qualities he has in abundance. As the story line progresses we may see the Bandit and the Saboteur begin to fade followed by the Sorceress for he will no longer feel the need to rely on the kindness of strangers. And that’s when the show ends, because watching a well-adjusted person go through life just isn’t interesting or fun. We laugh at characters through our identification with them, and come away feeling much better about our own circumstances.

The idea I was waiting on someone to save me would have been rejected outright prior to this journey. Hadn’t I elevated myself from an Associates degree from a community college into two of the top film schools in the nation? Didn’t I work hard, being the nicest person on the block so I could earn my space in this world? Hadn’t I run the lives of creative geniuses in business, never thinking the creative genius could be me? Since all are true, where’s my prize? In Los Angeles the fantasy that one will be discovered and plucked out of their current circumstance and gently placed in their rightful and dreamed of situation can happen. But when the hidden reliance on that low percentage occurrance secretly runs my life, I get nowhere. And nowhere is where I am.

The Sorceress. Perhaps the most vile and long-standing in my life, had me trapped in a fantasy world of “What If’s” and “If Only’s.” If blank happens, then I’ll be happy. If an outside source rescues me, then I’ll be saved (sentence lifted directly from Judith Parker Harris’ Secrets of Seven Villains).

Identifying the Sorceress felt like someone had just delivered some really bad news. Oh God, this can’t be. No one is going to find me and save me here in this warehouse? No, and for that matter, not anywhere. Only banishment to this desolate situation allowed the belief deep within my psyche to emerge. And there it was. Unless I do something different, nothing will change. Here, or anywhere.

This warehouse job is the physical manifestation of my villains: The Killer moved in and buried my creativity and joy and that’s just fine because the Saboteur told me lies. My screenplays were no good, my art too simple, my administrative skills lacking. The Bandit had me working harder than I ever had because hard labor is the only thing I can do. And now the Sorceress, and my dependence on someone or something to fix my circumstance.

You may be thinking this took eight months, really? And how old are you? I know one needs to be the hero in their own life, but I never saw how that applied to me. In my book I’d done my part, so why isn’t my life working? I submit that if you think me dull and dim witted to not see the obvious, and you base your judgement from your lofty and good position from which you operate, perhaps a few more stones over turned in your own life will push you from good to great. And from great to amazing. Now excuse me while I go do something productive for the future. My future. The one I really want.

JPH Note: Cindy’s struggle is classic and so is our own tendency to say, “Whew, I’m glad that’s not me,” all the while fearing our own villains and wondering just what they have in mind for us. Here’s the secret. Our villains are afraid we’ll find them. They hide behind our negative habits, patterns, routines and lessons that are impacting and sabotaging our lives today. When we start to change, the villains have no place to hide – so they run! That’s just where we want them, on the run, so we are free to embrace the life of our design, as opposed to a life full of other people’s programming. Even the Sorceress can’t stand the heat when we decide to wait no more for “If” to provide a miracle and instead move ahead to create our own magic. Take action every day and see how far you can move ahead this year.