5 STEPS TO BUST A BLOCK
By Judith Parker Harris | November 7, 2009
5 STEPS TO BUST A BLOCK
Block 51: “I don’t want to change.” There is only one way to bust a block and that is to find the habit, routine, core belief, attitude or perception that is causing you to automatically resist something without understanding why, and then to change it. I’m hearing a chorus of “I don’t want to,” “I don’t have time,” “Perhaps it will take care of itself,” and any one of 100 other excuses.
Stop the excuses, just for a moment and answer this question: “What’s the worst thing that can happen if I don’t change?” The truth is, whatever you answered will probably come true if you don’t change. Another unfortunate fact is that if you don’t change, you’ll just keep repeating the same disappointing behavior in rather disheartening situations. Often, the pain of being stuck has to be greater than the perceived pain of change in order for us to CHANGE. That’s what happened to me when I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 1985. At that time there were no medications to recommend, no doctors with answers. I could have chosen to be passive and wait for a cure, but I chose to be active in my own care, research and action. It felt good to establish some control over my situation, and the results have been astonishing.
So, here’s what to do when you run into a block:
1) Ask yourself the five “W” questions. Why am I feeling resistant? Who has made me feel this way before? What has happened to me that triggers this type of reaction? When have I felt and reacted this way before and how did it turn out? Where was I when I had these similar feelings and thoughts?
2) Check in with your habits. Is this type of situation or resistance repeated in your life? What feels old, familiar and uncomfortable about it? Check your immediate, knee-jerk assumptions and perceptions. Do they even apply to your life anymore?
3) If you have found a habit – where did it come from? Who else had these habits? Do you want to keep this habit or change it?
4) Follow the “Why” questions along the path they take you until you find the exact attitude, behavior or belief that needs to be changed. Why do I act this way, feel this way, react this way?
Try applying these four questions to the national healthcare crisis and how you feel about it personally. Many of us are holding on to a bit of fear in one way or another that change will take away something we hold dear – that change can’t be good. But, why? Face whatever resistance you may have, answer the Bust A Block questions objectively, and then think about what would satisfy you in a healthcare plan. Try to connect with the problem and the solution and see where you stand as a journalist observer looking at the big picture.
With the understanding you gain in these four steps, change will be made much easier, because you most often are changing something that was not of your choice in the first place.
An excerpt from CONQUER CRISIS WITH HEALTH-ESTEEM by Judith Parker Harris. blockedtoblockbuster.com/education1.html
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